Tuesday, January 22, 2008

K is 'For the Kids'

Hey Fred, whassup? Buy you a drink?

Sure, get me a Sam Adams.

So Fred, how's the new job treating you?

Not so bad, except we're at a standstill. All work is halted while we wait for the layoffs.

Ow, that's not so good.

Yeah, but that's not what I'm worried about. See, I've lived through lean times before. But the judge just increased my alimony.

No! How'd that happen?

She went to court and claimed that she wasn't able to live the way she had during the marriage.

Didn't she bankrupt you with her spending when you were married?

Almost. You remember - It took me a decade, and all my assets to clean up the bad credit, and the credit bills she stuck me with.

Couldn't you raise that as an issue?

Sure, but remember, we live in a no fault state. It's not her fault she lived beyond her means, just my responsibility to keep her there. Heh-Heh.

Nice. Does she work?

Yeah, which I hoped would make a difference. Her earnings almost doubled since the divorce.

I guess your earnings went up more?

No, I'm taking home about the same, a tiny bit less, in fact. But the judge said that in the divorce she had 'contemplated' being able to maintain the same lifestyle that she had during the marriage, and said I had the ability to pay to support that. I got her legal fees too.

I guess she made a big presentation with her monthly expenses and what she pays and all.

Not reallly. She just claimed in court that she had to shop at Wal-Mart all the time.


Yeah. It's like a joke, except not funny. She buys everything from LL Bean. (Laughs)

Nice work if you can get it. What happens if you lose your job? Will your ex understand?

You've got to be kidding. She'll sue my pants off first thing.

What for? You got a secret bank account somewhere?

No, but she thinks that my family will bail me out, and the legal fees will all be mine anyway, so she might as well.

While you are out of work?

Sure - the court will say my being out of work is temporary, and 'impute' my old income to me.

Ow, well, I suppose there's unemployment.

Not really, see if I'm out of work for more than a month, my arrears will get high, and they'll start taking 65% of my unemployment.

Remind me again why we stay in the country?

It's the kids, dude, it's all about the kids.

Let's drink to the kids.



Monday, January 21, 2008

L is for Lawyers

L is for Lawyers
Whom women adore
If they can't win men's cases;
What good are they for?

If perjury and graft
By girls is just fine,
Then why would a man
Give a lawyer a dime?

When no matter the facts
The girl always wins
Then shouldn't men's lawyers
Fill old garbage bins?

Not to mention the fees
Which the men always pay
Why pay both your lawyer,
And her goon, I say?

And with burden of proof
Firmly laid on your side
Do you need a lawyer
To help tan your hide?

And presumption of guilt!
And impution, and jail!
And suspension of licenses,
Garnishment, Bail!

No the kangaroo courts
That our men have to face
Make men's lawyers redundant
An endangered race

It should be a sign that
There are so few of these
A sign that our courts
Have forced men to their knees

I don't have an answer
And it's really not fair
So please write your legislator
About this... ...if you dare.


Friday, January 18, 2008

L is for Links

Yesterday, I took a moment and adjusted links, something I do far too infrequently.

Some interesting MRA blogs have fallen silent, others have announced their departure, I am taking more note of some that I had paid less attention to in the past, and new ones have arisen. I have tried to add the ones I have noticed that grabbed me, and still have a couple to add. I appreciate everyone who links here, and am very appreciative of the time and energy that my fellow bloggers expend in blogging.

I also know how easy it is to be silenced:

+ Like a body fighting an incurable infection like leprosy, sometimes it is easier to just give up to the gynocracy. This can take the form of the blogger becoming too emotionally drained, or just not having the time, as he drags off to two or three jobs to support the ability of his ex to enjoy the lifestyle to which HE would like to become accustomed.

+ Sometimes blogs are discovered by the evil ex, and they 'can and will' be used against one in court, as they demonstrate the sin of not wanting to be a slave to our female masters.

+ And sometimes, perhaps often, a blogger simply loses access to the technology, the networks and computers that make blogging possible. A significant majority (as much as 80%) of the homeless are male, and the pervasive slavery and financial ruin that impinges upon men following divorce contributes significantly to the homelessness of men. Where do you go to blog when you are living in a cardboard box? Perhaps the library, if you don't get shooed away.

So I appreciate my fellow MRA bloggers a lot, and with all that said, welcome:

Hawaiian Libertarian
Mens News Daily
Toy Soldier
Eternal Batchelor
Don't Marry
Carnival of Reaction
The Man On the Street
Male Matters
...and... (added later)...
No Feminazis
Dr Helen

Thanks to all of you, and 'keep on blogging!'


Thursday, January 17, 2008

M is for MBTYIYS

I write 'my best to you in your struggles,'
Because we must struggle.
We are forced into an adversarial legal system,
Where we are the adversary,
Where we pay for both our lawyer
And our attacker's lawyer,
And both of them, and the judge
Are fully invested, trained, and full participants in a system that treats men as subhumans which are presumed guilty, and never proven innocent. Many of us give up: whatever their ex wants, she gets, and she stops taking them to court, and the man limps on, his savings ransacked, his earning potential reduced to bare subsistance or below, in search of shelter, missing his kids. Others cannot give up, either because their rage at injustice burns brighter, or because their ex keeps suing them, and getting him to pay her legal fees. There is no justice for men, but if there ever is to be, we must struggle. Letters must be written. Marches must be organized. Speeches must be made, and all on top of the crushing, dehumanizing, unavoidable and slavery-like burdens the court places upon us. We must all work, and do something regularly to restore men's rights. Can you help? Do struggle, even just a little.

My Best to you in your struggles!